The saying that is so cliché (at least in my book) “guys don’t like it when you sleep with them on the first date” comes out of my mother’s mouth, not once but a few times, in the last few years. Some times I wonder how slutty she thinks I am, but this time its because I mentioned a MTV True Life episode about a couple who marries and have never even kissed! Yes, mom I know, even though I slightly disagree, that fucking on the first date and probably even a week will most likely mean no real future for that relationship.
You are in control!
Ahhh… another double standard in life. Girls can’t fuck too soon, because then they aren’t marriage material, what about the guy? It takes 2 to do the naughty, right? Have you ever thought just once; I wont date you because you won’t fuck me or better yet because you tried too early to get some.
The guy tries, yet the girl is the one that either gets named the slut or the good girl. How about this… DON’T TRY ANYTHING! Don’t try to hold my hand, breathe on me, kiss me or slip your hand down my pants. Us women are human too! A touch, scent, or taste arouses us just like guys. And JUST LIKE MEN we are horny and want some as well!!!!
Here is the thing: I do agree that women are in control. We can say no or yes because we have the pussy. And yes giving it up too early runs the risk of making the relationship into just hook ups. So what is the appropriate amount of time? Ha… I dunno. No one really knows besides you and your partner. What I do know is that the longer you wait, usually the anticipation builds and the better the sex.
BUT I DO BELIEVE that if you are not waiting until marriage that couples should have sex before marriage for two reasons…
1. Most guys and ladies who have had sex already would not want to marry with out a test run (or a few). You have to see if there is chemistry in the bed. Because to be honest… a relationship is not going to last if there is no sex!
2. Guy or girl… with any new experience in life, people change. After you lose your virginity, people grow and mature.
After speaking to one of my guys, he explained it very well; “you don’t want your girl to not have experience, yet you don’t want to imagine her with anyone before you.”
It makes sense… but in reality it is not plausible. What I try to do and recommend to my girlfriends… if you want a real relationship with the person, hold out. Again I don’t know for how long. Also he won’t try if he’s also looking for a real relationship with you. Just use your best judgment and enjoy every moment, good or bad.
Last note: as a man or woman, we should express our sexuality and sensuality as we feel best fits us with no worries about names or titles! So stay clean or get dirty because either way you only life once and live it by your rules!
~Penetration of the mind~
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